Or at least try not to hate the jimmy hat quite so much
It's apparent that guys have a love/hate relationship with their condoms. On the bright side, there's really no need to worry about being a parent before you're ready, and your risk of getting a nasty STD is minimized greatly. But we get that the pleasure can dive compared to going bare. Throw in the loss of intimacy that comes with trying to unwrap one of the suckers under pressure and there's no wonder guys would rather not bother. But if you try these three smart practices for getting to know your condom better, we promise the situation will be a lot less cumbersome.
FIND YOUR SIZE
An ill-fitting rubber is an "oops" in the making. "If it's too tight, it's more likely to break," says Richard Crosby, Ph.D., a sex researcher at the University of Kentucky, "and if it's too loose, it won't stay on." The key to a good fit? "Buy a snug, a standard, and a large condom from the major brands," says Crosby. Test them during masturbation. "It's like trying on jeans—you can tell right away which pair you feel most comfortable in."
SHOP FOR TWO
Your own condom contentment is important, but if your mate isn't happy, you'll be only halfway to satisfying sex, says sex researcher Jenny Higgins, Ph.D., M.P.H., at the University of Wisconsin. Guys focus on fit and feel, she says, "but for many women, a condom's lubrication is much more important." Your play: Avoid rubbers with spermicidal lubricants, which can irritate vaginal tissues, and keep a tube of water-based lube ready.
SCHEDULE DRESS REHEARSALS
Trying to don a condom under pressure can lead to mistakes and erection-wilting stress. Fortunately, a study by Crosby found a solution young guys embraced: Practice putting on a condom during masturbation. "Experimenting in privacy removed any pressure, awkwardness, and sense of being judged, and allowed them to master this skill," he says. The idea is to replace conscious thought with reflexive action.
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